Rays Room - Child and Family Therapy

Ray is someone who will understand who you are and what you are going through even after one session. Truly one of the best psychologist I have ever came across. Will go out of his way to try and help in any way he can. He’s incredible.

Ray has been very kind, patient and professional in his dealing and I won’t hesitate to recommend him to anyone looking for a good psychologist. Thanks for all your help and all the best!

Ray has been wonderful for our family. We initially started seeing Ray as our little one is full of energy but lacked emotional regulation skills - this led to lots of conflict and angst in our family. Ray is extremely warm, friendly and quickly established rapport. He is very patient and makes you feel very comfortable which makes it very easy to open up to him. He also makes things fun when needed and my daughter loves going to see him.

It was amazing how quickly he was able to determine our individual characteristics and how that fed into the family dynamic. He not only gave our daughter simple calming techniques which she uses every day, he also allowed us to see how we could ALL contribute to a better family environment. Although we are not the perfect family, life is much calmer for all of us. We understand, appreciate and are more patient with each other - which makes for a much happier family!

Thank you so much Ray - we are so lucky that we've had a chance to work with you. You've made a massive difference to our family. Go and see Ray and his team - we are so glad we did!

When your family is more The Simpsons vs The Von Trapp Family, and you reach breaking point, I highly recommend family counselling with Ray.

Our family of five sat before Ray and it was a moment I will never forget, for each of us had the light shone on us, and while it can feel uncomfortable being in the hot seat, it was most powerful in reassessing each of our individual behaviours and the impact it has on our family's health and harmony.

We are now collectively adopting Ray's time proven strategies and have found a better balance in our home. Importantly, should we fall back into the trap of failing to listen to each other and talking over each other again, we know we have a solution in Ray's expert mediation and open-ended appointment.

The work we have done with Flavia has transformed the relationship between my daughter and I. My little girl has gone from being an anxious little worrier (after a move across the world from the UK) to a happy child who is confident that she can deal with whatever life throws at her. Our bond is stronger than ever. Flavia not only listened and helped us work through whatever we needed to, but she gave us the tools to help ourselves going forward.

Ray is one of a kind- Truely!

He is a true professional, he exudes warmth, kindness, honesty and a deep understanding of human nature.

His insightful, perceptive nature is something that cannot be taught. He has a natural intuition that paired with his professional experience makes him second to none.

He actively listens and is part of the conversation. One session with him will enlighten you even if the subject matter is tough, you'll want to come back for more.
He has a great sense of humour, so there is laughter too.
His room is comforting and homely, he immediately puts you at ease.
He is worth the wait, the time and the cost.
Do your life a favour and see Ray.
Thanks Ray, you are the best. Samantha

There is a degree of trust that one requires with a therapist. I was stunned at how quickly Ray earned mine. His approach was relaxed, warm - yet insightful and penetrating. The topics we covered were wide, yet logically linked. Each meeting was hard and confronting - but so worth my time. I feel that Ray was very capable of linking multiple issues, but keeping them separate and safe when needed. My experiences were always positive, which is asking a fair bit from therapy.

We are absolutely thankful for Ray's Room! Our Therapists Mrs Flavia Borgiani is one of the most fine, professional and knowledgeable therapists there is. Apart from being all that she is also a funny, warm and caring person who has given our family real solution and a peace of mind. Our child didn't want to come at first and now he is waiting for every session with anticipation. We have watched a true and honest change happening befor our eyes thanks to Flavia's experience and unique approach.
I would highly recommend Ray's Room to both family and kids.

Flavia was absolutely amazing for my family. She has such a wonderful, calming and patient approach and greatly assisted us. I highly recommend Ray’s Room.

Flavia has been a wonderful therapist, extremely patient and understanding, providing advice and therapy for us working through various issues over the last couple of months. Thank you and we appreciate you!

Ray was absolutely fantastic. My daughter was dealing with lot of anxiety. Really impressed with how comfortable he made her feel and how he has turned things around for her in just a few visits. Very thankful for all the support and advise and tips given.

Ray was quick to build rapport and help support us as a family. After just a few sessions our family dynamic completely changed for the better as did the interactions we were having with our teenage daughter. I can’t recommend Ray highly enough

Working with Ray has been life changing, to say the least. His professionalism is exceptional. His warmth and excellent sense of humour immediately puts you at ease. His knowledge of his field and how people strive for peace, connection and understanding of who they really are - is like no other. I highly recommend Ray for any person or family that needs support with trauma or grief counselling. For anyone that requires an extremely skilled mediator for conflict resolution. You can see that Ray has a deep passion for helping people become the best versions of themselves. A truly skilled therapist offering an outstanding service.

Very recommended. The therapy was tailored and we saw development and change over the time of the therapy.

Ray is a rare gem. Within an hour he can see you; your past, your present and your better future.

He detects unspoken thoughts and misunderstood feelings, and allows you a judgement-free space to untangle and re-form.

The decades of life that have separated you from your true self disappear and you remember who you are, and you learn to love that person again.

I came to Flavia at the lowest point of my life, not knowing if this would work.
To my surprise, Flavia is very calm, professional, and patient with me, she guided me through every step along the way, constantly checking in with me, and always be there for me when I needed her.
It has been almost 7 months since I started my therapy session with Flavia, she helped me to tackle my deep root problems, from a depressed, no confident person, I am happy to say, I have changed my mindset completely, now I am a confident strong minded independent women. I couldn’t say thank you enough to the amazing Flavia.

Ray is a breathe of fresh air. He has helped my daughter and I address some underlying issues that have been there since she was diagnosed with a health issues at the age of 7. She is now 21 years of age and now she is moving forward in a positive way. I have always protected her in a good way and not such a good way. I have learnt from Ray how to manage her in a different way that creates a much more positive way for her to live her life and for me not to helicopter manage her. I am forever grateful for finding Ray and identifying what i was trying to manage but never knew what I was struggling with. I am now working through these issues identified and pulling the wall down that I have had up for many years with my daughter. The underlying issues were that i was protecting myself in case any thing happened to her, and I lost her. This thank god never happened and now we have fresh air to breathe and we all now manage our relationship in a much more positive way without dwelling on the past. So thank you Ray for all you have done for us. I do hope that all your clients can reap the benefits of your caring, nurturing way on dealing with relationships and families.

Ray is a truly wise and gifted space holder

I can’t recommend Ray highly enough as a couples counselor. From the very first phone inquiry, his warmth and sensitivity made us both feel very welcome.

My husband and I have a potentially long and uncertain road road before us in couples therapy but Ray’s seasoned insight, compassion and generosity allow both of us to feel held in this dynamically unfolding process.

Thank you Ray for your heart centred guidance in making both Matt and I feel seen. Thank you for guiding us gently through this terrain we’ve found ourselves in. You are a truly wise and gifted space holder

Ray is highly professional and proactive, his kind nature really lends itself well to therapy. After having a little speed wobble, Ray was able to help me develop techniques to overcome some of the problems I was struggling with. The whole service was a class act and I could not recommend him highly enough!

Date of review: Sunday 9 August 2020
First saw Ray as a family: late March 2020
First saw Ray as an individual: May 2020 (near the middle of the month)

From the second half of 2018 through to early 2020, intense episodes of conflict were taking place (non-physical) in the home. Police started to become involved. On referral from our General Practitioner, we were introduced to Ray Medhora as a family therapist. Initially, we saw him once a week. Since I began seeing him as an individual in mid-May 2020 it, too, has been once a week. Since coming into August, the family has moved to once a fortnight.

To begin with, the family considered our time with Ray to be worthwhile. I recall my saying that he was a person who believed his job could make a difference. That that is what one wants in a therapist.

Since then I have come to see that Ray has an instinct for being a therapist. Three examples. One of us has a panic attack mid-session and Ray is on the ball to calm that person down. One of us starts going down a path of guilt over a past suicide in the family and Ray is there to soothe that feeling back to health. One of us needs to be confronted in relation to something and Ray has the courage to confront. The point is: he has always struck the right balance and provided what the moment requires.

He always gives a session enough time for the issues to run their course. For a couple of sessions early on, this meant running over time. We too have waited as a family to begin our session. I much prefer that than other professionals who seem to be more interested in clocks than they are in the people/person sitting in front of them. Over the last 15 years, I have seen about a dozen other psychiatrists/counsellors/psychiatrists/_. Amazingly enough, running over time is the exception rather than the rule. Ray has been a breath of fresh air in this regard - even opening an overflow day if his clients require it.

He has also given us (and myself) activities to do to improve our relationships (and my personal health in the individual sessions). This, of course, is standard practise in this profession. These activities and exercises have helped. No more calls to the police, no more panic attacks (which had taken place in the home), more feelings of harmony and less feelings of disharmony in the home. It has all come to pass.

Are there any weaknesses? He prefers to be in front of clients and dealing with problems so the administrative side of the business (i.e. Old fashioned "paperwork") is.how to put it.not his favourite part of the work that he does. His ability to make and keep appointments with clients, however, is sound - no problems.

Our General Practitioner informed me that family therapy is specialised and does not always work (as with any therapy). Not many in the therapy professions take this specialty. The fact that Ray does so has meant that my individual sessions have been far more effective than they otherwise would have been. It is plain: he is far more aware of what is occurring in my daily life. I have found him to be a godsend.

I recommend 'Ray's Room Therapy' to one and all.